Hello hello! Grace here.
I’m sure you’ve heard by now that nearly everyone at Clarity Towers is working from home now, trying to keep the good ship Clarity afloat in this storm!
Whilst we’re all indoors, I want to share some Cherokee wisdom with you! (No, I am not part Cherokee. I wish!). I think we can all agree that drastic situations, such as these, bring out the best and worst in people. And so this story really hit home, more than usual, and I wanted to share!
The Story of Two Wolves
An old Cherokee was teaching his grandson about life.
“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight, and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, lies, false pride, ego and feelings of inferiority or superiority.”
He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
Whether or not this is your first time reading the story, I think it serves as an important reminder of the power we have over our own experiences and emotions! It’s quite empowering to know that WE are the ones who feed the wolves and choose which wolf thrives. Particularly whilst we are indoors, with just ourselves for company! I’d like that company to be nice company.
Quite simply, the two wolves represent our positive and negative emotions. And though some days, you just have to ride the negative wave until it passes (‘tomorrow will be better’) I believe that it’s generally worth trying to fight off the bad wolf, as much as is possible!
For example, Monday was my birthday. Let’s get real. The first half of the day, the bad wolf was definitely winning. Sorrow, self pity and resentment were all floating around, for various reasons. And then I decided to turn it around, called a few friends that I knew would lift my spirits, wrote a gratitude list (to remind myself that I had far more to be grateful for than sad about) and put on some music… and suddenly the GOOD wolf won for the remainder of the day… and in fact for the rest of the week.
What about your craft projects? Or posting your art online? I’m sure there’s been plenty of examples of not feeling happy with what you’ve created, not getting the recognition you expected after so much work, thinking that other people are better, luckier, more popular or more skilled… and that’s the bad wolf coming out to play. For as long as you allow him to.
My Mum has been battling the bad wolf all week. Self-serving people tugging and pecking at her when she’s just trying to help keep the business going for everybody. I watch her. She growls back a bit, then she puts her funny hat on and turns it round. There comes the good wolf again! One of the things she often says when a day goes wrong really early and the bad wolf surfaces even before breakfast, is “It’s never too late to start your day again”.
No matter what our external circumstances are at the moment, we are ALL in this together. We are all (pretty much) stuck indoors with ourselves (and Clarity) for company. And we ALL have both wolves.
So we have to remember that. Everyone has both wolves. And something we say or do to someone else, can absolutely help THEIR bad or good wolf thrive for some time. So let’s be all of the good wolf things.
The bad wolf (negative thoughts) will drain the energy from our minds and bodies. We need energy right now. The good wolf (positive thoughts) is self supportive, kind, compassionate and loving. I know which one I’m going to feed!
Which wolf will you feed?
Lotsa love, Grace xoxo
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